Sunday, January 15, 2006

Dating in the Arab World

NP - Natacha Atlas - Ya Weledi

I was reading a thread on about relationships, and it got me thinking (very cynically, as I can be) about dating in the Arab World. To those who dont know, dating in the ME is a relatively new phenomenon. Its a break from our traditional culture and that. But we havent quite got the specifics down. Theres a number of ways it can work, heres a few:

1) Boy sees girl in mall
2) Boy throws phone number at girl
3) Girl calls boy, they talk
4) Girl gets attached, they decide to meet up
5) Boy finds girl revolting, girl finds boy irresistable
6) Boy finds new girl, girl is heartbroken

Alternatively, this one is more likely in mixed private schools, where kids scorn at the whole 'throw your number' idea:

1) Boy finds girl in same class 'hot'
2) Boy boasts to all his friends about how much of a pimp he is and how he can get that girl
3) Boy shows girl attention, girl instantly falls in love
4) Boy and girl start to talk on the phone
5) Boy starts paying girls phone bills, even though he starts to dread phone calls because girl does nothing but complain about how crap her life is, how her driver is always on holiday, etc.
6) Boy and girl meet up, in groups with friends
7) Boy starts dating girl's best friend, girl starts dating boy's best friend, none of them know
8) Someone finds out, break-up. Strangely, both parties are innocent

All this takes place in about 2 weeks. Not once in any of these scenarios does a 'date' actually occur.

There was a forward I got, one of the few I actually found funny, its about dating, I'd like to post it here. Some may find it offensive, but its nothing you havent seen before. I like the last one especially :p Here it is:

First date: You get to kiss her goodnight.
Second date: You get to grope all over and make out a bit.
Third date: You get to have sex but only in the missionary position.

First Date: You both get blind drunk and have sex.
Second Date: You both get blind drunk and have sex.
20th Anniversary: You both get blind drunk and have sex.

First Date: You take her to a play and an expensive restaurant.
Second Date:
You meet her parents and her Mom makes spaghetti & meatballs.
Third Date: You have sex, she wants to marry you & insists on a 3-carat ring.
5th Anniversary: You already have 5 kids together & hate the thought of having sex.
6th Anniversary: You find yourself a Mistress.

First Date: You get terrific head.
Second Date: You get even more great head.
Third Date: You tell her you'll marry her and never get head again.

First date: You get to buy her an expensive dinner but nothing happens.
Second date: You buy her an even more expensive dinner. Nothing happens again.
Third date: You don't even get to the third date and you've already realized nothing is ever going to happen.

First date: Meet her parents.
Second date: Set the date of the wedding.
Third date: Wedding night.

First Date: You get to buy her a real expensive dinner.
Second Date: You get to buy her and her girlfriends a real expensive dinner.
Third Date: You get to pay her rent.
Tenth Date: She's pregnant by someone other than you.

First Date: You buy her an expensive dinner, get drunk on Tequila, and have sex in the back of her car.
Second Date: She's pregnant.
Third Date: She moves in. One week later, her mother, father, his
girlfriend, her two sisters, her brother, all of their kids, her grandma, her father’s girlfriend's mother, her two cousins, her sister's Boyfriend and his three kids move in and you live on
rice and beans for the rest of your life in your home that used to be nice, but now looks like a home along the Tijuana strip.

First Date: Mother, Father, Brothers, Sisters, Cousins, Aunts, Uncles, Friends and entire Arab community finds out.
Second Date: You are shot dead.
No third date.

Posted by illogicist at 1:30 PM


  1. Blogger Lym posted at 1/15/2006 02:30:00 PM  
    I disagree. Dating is not a relatively new phenomenon. It was here for a very long while. Even my great great grand parents experienced it. Yeh , she is alive to tell the tales.It was only more subtle and innocent back then.

    Your scenarios are too general.There are many who have 'dated' for years and now are married or divorced. I know :rolleyes:
  2. Blogger NiGhTFaCe posted at 1/15/2006 02:59:00 PM  
    I really laughed! :D
  3. Blogger PizzaQueen posted at 1/15/2006 08:21:00 PM  
    PeeePeee how comes you never flirt with me ?!
  4. Blogger Arabian Princess posted at 1/16/2006 05:36:00 AM  
    looooooool PT you really made me go back on school days ..

    well the scenarios you mentioned really happens!

    I remmber waking up in around grade 9 knowing that dating actually happens, before that I thought it doesnt happen in Oman at all. all the stories I witnessed always ended up with heart breaks so I knew it wasnt something right to do.

    the forward was really funny, esp about arab dates :D
  5. Blogger Sree posted at 1/16/2006 06:40:00 AM  
    That was hilarious yo ... specially the Arab and the Mexican part, haha.
  6. Blogger illogicist posted at 1/16/2006 10:20:00 PM  
    @Lym: well its always been around I suppose. I remember when I was in the 6th, maybe 5th grade, I knew what it was - later I found out that it actually happens :p But I think the attitude of parents towards it has really changed kind of recently. In the environment I grew up in, dating was a big no-no. But now I see a lot of parents who are completely fine with their kids dating. Hell, I know a guy whos parents used to be cool with the fact that he used to bring girls home and have sex with them :s

    :S I'm overdosed on caffeine...I hate exams.
  7. Blogger Arabian Princess posted at 1/17/2006 02:58:00 AM  
    umm Z .. those parents who are ok with that were ok with that long before.. parents who say its a big no-no still beleive its a big no-no ..
  8. Anonymous Anonymous posted at 1/18/2006 08:36:00 PM  
    The forward cracked me up. Good one :)
  9. Anonymous libellula posted at 1/18/2006 08:36:00 PM  
    oh PS: it's Libby
  10. Anonymous Anonymous posted at 1/13/2008 12:09:00 PM  
    Arab Young Man,
    Actually ,there isn't anything to judge about Dating in the arab world,because communication between boys and girls in our world has been falsely cut bcoz of wars and people who understood religion in a wrong way.Dating between strange boy and girl is wrong (bcoz when people see two they'd think that they want to have sex and have fun not think about what's between them),but we used to get married when we were about 15 or above ,our life were much better than THE democracy age .The democracy of west lead economically to make marriage age at 25 and above,while it's all western style which is clear from a result ,we can't date with strangers yet we can't get married earlier so we are done for . Don't be surprised when you hear how miserable our world has become bcoz of wars ,and our backwardness which resulted from feeling always useless & helpless due to the psychological war on us.We used to be as civilized more than Europe and Japan until WW1.
    Hope that clarifies everything ,Thank you for your interest about our societies. :)
    my email ( for any questions.ur welcome

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