Does Distance Strenghten or Weaken Relationships?
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You hear stories of both. 'Absence makes the heart grow fonder', and yet 'out of sight, out of mind'. (dont you just love that - conflicting proverbs). So what is it then?
Obviously both. Does it depend on the person? I think, at least to some extent, it does. I'm trying to think of what it is in a person that would make them grow closer or further to someone far away, but I cant think of what quality it is. Maybe its sentimentality - as you think of the 'good times', you wish they were still around. Who knows.
It also depends on what type of relationship you're talking about. Friendship, or couples? You hear countless stories of couples that couldn't handle the distance, and ultimately broke up (whether by mutual agreement, or one cheating on the other - or both). You hear the odd story here and there of the couple that stayed together through it all, and got married in the end (I've personally heard one or two myself, and its always good to hear it). But what about normal friendships? When you and your best friend go your separate ways, be it for uni or for work or whatever, what happens then? Do you store the past somewhere in your heart and move on, make new friends, and in time forget the old? Or do you keep in contact with the old, regular contact, and become closer than you ever were? Again, I've heard stories of both. And what scares me is - without realising - forgetting the old. It hasn't happened yet, but one day my 'new' friends will become 'old' friends, as I graduate and work god-knows where. What then?
Posted by illogicist at 2:24 PM